Choose something you would like to move toward. That might be a relationship, might be work, and it might be to save the world.

It does not matter for now, you can always choose another something to move toward later. Finding what you are passionate about is like that; it usually takes a few tries before you find something that triggers passion.

We are going to use this diagram to map out the process you are about to go through:

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Note: I received a comment from someone who thought I was referring to positive thinking in this post. This is not the case at all. This post is about thinking about who and what are important, and then taking action (making a move) toward who and what’s important. Any kind of thinking (positive, negative or neutral) simply comes along while the action is taken. Just wanted to make that clear.

Kevin

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With the Holidays starting to wind down a lot of people will start thinking about New Years resolutions. Maybe some of you will resolve to find your passion(s) in life.

The fastest way I know of getting started toward finding your passion is choosing to do an action toward who or what’s important to you instead of doing a typical away (avoiding) move.

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Hi Folks,

Welcome!

The Matrix is a process for taking Pain (such as Feeling I’m not valued) into Passion (Feeling I’m valued). With just a bit of practice you can start transforming the Away moves associated with the pain of anxiety, frustration, and feeling overwhelmed into Toward moves with a sense of accomplishment and value. You will get that sense of Passion you’ve been looking for.

[The Matrix is simplified Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT), and it’s also called the Psychological Flexibility Model. Don’t worry, you don’t have to know any complicated words or do anything complicated. This is just to let you know that the Matrix is scientific, and you can look it up if you like.]

Like a “Learn to play piano in just a few minutes” lesson, the Matrix on this page lets you get into the basics of changing Pain into Passion quickly.

You would not know music theory after learning how to play a tune in just a few minutes, and this is much the same, however, it’s relatively easy to learn the other stuff needed once you do the basic Matrix.

Here’s how to get started changing  your Pain into Passion…

Step 1: Draw the following diagram on a piece of paper, whiteboard or chalkboard.

Step 2: Then ask yourself four questions:

1. Who and what are important to me? Write the answers in the lower, right quadrant of the diagram.

2. What shows up inside of me (like fear) and gets in the way of moving toward who and what’s important to me? Write the answer in the lower, left quadrant.

3. What behaviors (actions) do I often do to move Away from the stuff (like fear) that shows up inside of me? Write those in the upper, left.

4. What behaviors could I do to move Toward who (and what’s) important to me? Write those in the upper, right.

As you can see, I’ve filled a Matrix in with

“Family, Making a Difference and Feeling Valued/Passion” in the lower right,

“Fear, Feeling Devalued, Overwhelmed” in the lower left,

“Complain and Avoid” in the upper left, and

“Visit and Do what I Love” in the upper right.

You will of course fill in who and what’s important, etc., but remember that Passion is very important.

The diagram (nicknamed the Matrix) and the answers to the four questions are a picture of your Psychological Flexibility point of view.

This is the point of view you use the transform Pain (like feeling devalued) into Passion toward who and what’s important to you. 

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Or use the form below to contact me. Let’s get started soon! A life of Passion is waiting for you.

Hi folks,

I’m gradually moving the blog over to http://www.drkevinpolk.com/. The site is under construction, but it’s coming along.

Kevin

Hi Folks,

I scheduled a new webinar,

ACT-the-Matrix with Substance Abuse Clients: Moving Toward Contemplation. The link is below.

http://events.constantcontact.com/register/event?llr=455lm4iab&oeidk=a07e6azo1an3292cfe6

Kevin